Ashley Callie

The talented actress. The beautiful person. Our love and support.

 

Sending Love to Ashley February 18, 2008

Filed under: General — admin @ 2:08 pm

In lieu of flowers, the Callie family has requested that should anyone like to make a donation, donations to the following two organisations
would be much appreciated:

NATIONAL COUNCIL OF SPCAs
Bank: STANDARD BANK
Branch: SOUTHDALE
Account Type: CURRENT
Account No: 201 032 015
Branch Code: 00 64 05
Reference: Ashley Callie

If donors could either email their name and details of their deposit to
nspca@cybertrade.co.za or fax (011) 907 4013.

Animal Anti Cruelty League
Bank: FNB
Branch: Rosebank
Account Type: CURRENT
Account No: 50380046810
Branch Code: 253305
Reference: Ashley Callie

If donors could either email their name and details of their deposit to
aacladmin@iafrica.com or fax (011) 435 0693.

 

86 Comments for this post

 
Josine Says:

To the Callies family, I would like to send my deepest sympathies on your sad loss. It came as a great shock to hear of Ashley’s terrible accident, she will be greatly missed by all her fans, friends and family. May her soul rests in peace!

 
Moza Says:

I will like to send my deepest sympathies for the loss of your wonderful and talented daughter,she will be greatly missed I really don’t know how we are going to cope watching Isingo without he our Ashley (Lee Haines) being there anymore.

May our Lord be with you and may her soul rest in peace.

 
CARIE Says:

MAY THE LORD CONTINUE TO BE WITH THE FAMILY DURING THIS SAD TIME. THANKS TO ASH FOR ALLOWING US TO BLESS THE ANIMALS THAT SHE HAD SO MUCH LOVE FOR. MAY THE LORD HELP US TO COME TO TERMS WITH YOUR ABSENCE………

 
Ragoya Says:

My condolences to the Callie family, friends and fans.May her soul rest in peace and rise in glory.

 
Matthew Rhys Says:

To the family and friends of Ashley Callie,

[quote]Grief knits two hearts in closer bonds than happiness ever can;
and common sufferings are far stronger links than common joys.

Alphonse de Lamartine [/quote]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

 
Shannon Says:

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around you
and whispered “come to me.”
With tearful eyes we watched you,
and saw you pass away.
Although we loved you dearly,
we could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best.

My sincere condolences to the Callie family.

 
ANNELIZE Says:

MY HEART IS BROKEN I CANT EVEN THINK OF WATCHING ISIDINGO AGAIN AFTER SHES GONE. I JUST LOVED THE GRACE THAT SHE USED TO PLAY HER ROLE IN ISIDINGO AND HER EYES HER FACE THE WAY SHE THREW HER HAIR. SAD IM VERY SAD

 
Sharyn Says:

Dearest Ashley

“How bright thou art” Heaven has gained one of our brightest angels, your light will continue to shine on in our hearts. Deepest heartfelt sorrow to the Callie family. May grace, courage and acceptance flow into your hearts – my love, my arms, my light enfold you all.

Sharyn, Hillcrest Durban

 
Selina Says:

I have just made a deposit into – NATIONAL COUNCIL OF SPCAs – on behalf of my Family. It felt so good to do something for Ashley which she had so much passion for and felt so strongly about. This is another reason why we loved her so much.

To the Callie Family – our thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong!

All Our Love.

 
Nash Says:

I am so extremely saddened by our Nations loss. A woman of strength, courage and perseverence, Lee as I will remember you, gave us all something to look forward at the end of our days work. My deepest condolences to all you knew on a more personal level. To your family – I wish God’s comfort at this time. Thank you for the beautiful memories that you have left behind. To the cast at Isidingo – may Ashley’s spirit be the reason you want to perserve

 
Manoj Says:

Ashley,
You may have not yet achieved the status and hierachy that Lady Di had, but you fit her shoes so perfectly, you even where chosen to go the same way she had, so untimeously! You are truly our Candle in the Wind, and Your light has gone out far sooner than Your Legend ever will!
The Callies, May Ashley’s messages of condolences, encourage you all to derive your strength, and will go on with her greatest memories!
Our Deepest sympathies to you, and remember we hold you in our Thoughts and Prayer….. Same to the entire cast of Isidingo, May the Good Lord give you all the strength to go on, forever!!! Manoj+ Family, Durban

 
jacqui Says:

To the Callie family

My mother passed away 3 weeks after a car accident. It was a great shock as she was recovering very well.
Someone sent us the following verse, which brought a small measure of peace.

Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by a familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference in your tone, wear no forced air of
solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always
was, let it be spoken without effort, without the trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it meant. It is the same as it ever was, there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very
near, just round the corner.
All is well.

Remember the stars are the windows to heaven, when the pain becomes unbearable, look up and Ashley will
be looking down at you. May God bless you all and give you the strength to see you through this sad time.

 
Seth & Margot Schuller Says:

What a huge shock it is to loose a lady, who is such an inspiration to many, in the prime of her life. Ashley will be sadly missed by all her Cape Town fans. Our sincere condolences to the Callie family. Regards, The Schuller’s
‘ Forever Young ‘

 
Sheri Says:

Ashley Fans: There is something we can do for Ashley and the family. We can demand justice. 1) We can pressure the SAPS to investigate whether this is a drunk driving case.
2) If it is, we can bring pressure to the legal system to prosecute the driver of the other car to the full extent of the law. We can do this by showing up in as large of numbers as possible at any court hearings. We can also speak to the media and pressure reporters to keep doing stories and keep asking questions such as those brought to light in Friday’s Star Newspaper. It’s about time that South Africans got the message that “Drunk Driving is Murder.” If this turns out to be a drunk driving case, then perhaps Ashley’s final and most significant role will be bringing the scourge of drunk driving into the public eye in SA. Maybe through this hideous tragedy public awareness can be increased and someone else’s life can then be saved. Sorry for the drama, but I lost my Dad to a drunk driver many years ago. We remaining family members did everything I mentioned and the driver eventually got the maximum sentence. That didn’t bring my Dad back, but at least we knew we’d honored his memory by making sure justice was served. Maybe there is a bigger purpose to this tragedy.

 
Tracey King Says:

We all south african living in New Zealand and Australia will miss you. God really loved cause he share you with us all, now He is enjoying every minute He is spending with you cause w are a lovely person. God bless and comfort your family at this time
Your New Zealand and Australia fans

 
Tracey King Says:

We all south africans living in New Zealand and Australia will miss you Ashley. God really Loved us to share you with us all now He is enjoying every minute He is spending with you cause you were a lovely person. God bless and comfort your family at this time.

From all your New Zealnd and Australia fans

 
SIAN Says:

HEAVEN IS NO LONGER MISSING IT’S ANGEL.
GOOD-BYE ASHLEY, GONNA MISS YOU!!!!

TO THE ASHLEY FAMILY, BE STRONG, GOD BLESS.

 
matome molamo Says:

Ashley Fans: There is something we can do for Ashley and the family. We can demand justice. 1) We can pressure the SAPS to investigate whether this is a drunk driving case.
2) If it is, we can bring pressure to the legal system to prosecute the driver of the other car to the full extent of the law. We can do this by showing up in as large of numbers as possible at any court hearings. We can also speak to the media and pressure reporters to keep doing stories and keep asking questions such as those brought to light in Friday’s Star Newspaper. It’s about time that South Africans got the message that “Drunk Driving is Murder.” we will miss u ASHELY.may ur soul rest in peace’

 
D Says:

I agree with Sheri, we should do something. Demand for justice. Yesterday I’m hearing that the guy and two of his passengers where realised from hospital and the cops say that they are still investigating, I mean come on. It’s really sad that someone we all loved has suffered and now is gone, because some idiot was trying to show of to his friends how great he is…..
To the callie family, please accept my condolences at this sad time.
I just want to thank Ashley for being such a grate inspiration to all of us.
May your soul rest in peace.

 
Denise Says:

Even though we die, yet we still live.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain,
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the soft, uplifting rush,
Of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the stars that shine each night,
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.

A Native American Prayer

Yes, Ashley, you are all of these things.

 
Natalie Victor Says:

I have never been this sad in my life. I cannot even explain how I feel. I have never cried this much for anyone before. She was my idol, my heroine but most of all she was my friend and my inspiration.
I would gladly go back to that night and trade her life for mine. She deserved to live on and grace the world with her amazing presence.

She will live on in my life forever Ashley. You will always be my friend, and my heart will always be full of love for you.

xxx

 
G.Africa Says:

My deepest sympathy to the family of Ashley and the Isidingo cast. May the almighty grant you strength during your time of grief. Ashley has been my favourite actress in Isidingo since she started taking the role of Lee.

 
Jules Says:

MY SINCERE CONDOLENCES TO THE FAMILY OF SUCH A SPECIAL AND TALENTED WOMAN! ASHLEY WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. GOD BLESS YOU IN THIS SAD TIME XXXX

 
natasha Says:

For Ashleys’s Family & Friends

Somewhere in our dreams tonight
We’ll see you standing there
You’ll look at us with a smile
“Life isn’t always fair”

You say you were chosen for his garden
His preciously hand picked bouquet
“God really needed me,
That’s why I couldn’t stay”

It’s said to be that angels
Are sent from above
I’ve always had my angel
Our Friend – whose heart was filled with love

Wherever the ocean meets the sky
There will be memories of you
When I look up at that sky so blue
All we’ll see are visions of you

“While there’s a heart in us, you’ll be a part of us.”
“Forever Young, Forever Young”
“There is a new Angel tonight”

Trust in God and he will help you through this difficult time that you are going through. He will always be there for you when you need him, in good or bad times. He will help you cope. Words can’t begin to describe how we feel about what has happend. But she will be greatly missed. She was and will always be a STAR. Our STAR!!!!!!!!
Our deepest sympathy to each and everyone of the family and friends.

Regards
Natasha & Andrew Sinclair

 
melinda lourens Says:

To all the family and friends that ashley leave behind.God will be there for you in this sad time.God will not give you something that you could not handle. We sometimes dont understand why this things happen to us,and we ask why.But with God there is always a reason for everything.you will be in my prayers.
Asley will be in our hearts and will be missed. We thank god for the time he gave us with her.remember all the good times and all the laughter.God Bless

 
Yvonne Says:

Sheri is right – we need to know the truth about this tragedy and if this is a case of drunken driving let the culprit face the full might of the law. I for one will be right there demanding justice. I doubt if there is a fitting enough punishment for people who drink and drive. We read about it every day – innocent people involved in accidents because of other peoples selfishness. Its time something radical was done to the perpetrators. Meanwhile South Africa mourns Ashley – we will miss her so much.

 
theresa Says:

To Ashley’s family – my deepest sympathies. It is such a loss to our country. We will all mourn with you at this tragic time and may God give you peace.

 
brando auret Says:

tonight i will salute your life one last time with your “best drink in the world”.but you will always be a source of insparation,heaven is a a lot more fun now that your giggle is part of that place.i will miss you ash.
bran

 
gazelle safaris limited, tanzania Says:

WE AT GAZELLE SAFARIS ARE DEEPLY SORRY TO HEAR OF THE TRAGEDY AND LOSS OF ASHLEY. WE HUMBLEY PRAY FOR HER SOUL TO REST IN PEACE AND HER FAMILY TO OVERCOME THEIR DISTRESS SOON.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND ASHLEY

 
Debi Says:

I am a friend fo the driver of the other vehicle involved in the accident and like you I was also a great fan of Ashley Callie. Therefore, I can understand the hurt, pain and anger felt by all as a result of her death.

The driver and the occupants of the other vehicle were badly injured and are traumatised not only as a result from been involved in such a terrible accident but worse that Ashley lossed her life as a result of the accident.

The police are currently investigating and we must wait for the report to know exactly what happened that night. There was an eye witness who may be able to assist with the details of the accident.To those of us who were not there let us not resort to assumptions or name calling. You or I could have been that idiot-just another time, another place. The driver of the other vehicle is very traumised and is receiving counselling. Put yourself in his shoes right now.

I will never forget the moment when I told him that the driver of the Smart car was Ashley.He prayed to God begging that she would make a full recovery and when we gathered at his home after hearing about Ashley’s death he was angry at God and now doubts his existence. This has scarred him and is something that he will have to live with for the rest of his life. It saddens me to see him in the condition he is in and he in no longer and may never again be the person I have known. Yes, we are grateful that he and the occupants are still with us and are mourning the death of Ashley along with the rest of you.

His mom cries all the time and says that she is thinking about Ashley’s mom.We think and talk about her fiance, parents, siblings and colleagues.
We are deeply saddened by what happened.

Ashley was a beautiful woman and though during her Top Billing interview said that she was not like the character Leigh Heynes I belive that she was just as charming, elegant and graceful.

My sincere condolences to Ashley’s fiance, family, friends, colleagues and fans.

 
Francine Kruger Says:

To the Callie Family,
I was at school with Ashley, She was a year ahead of me, so it came as a great shock to find out that she had passed away. She was the most amazing person and a fantastic actress. She was an ispiration to us all and will be greatly missed. May she rest in peace and be in our hearts forever.Asley was the rose of South Africa like Diana was the Rose of England. My deepesst sympathies to the family Some say love, it is a river
that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor
that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
an endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower,
and you its only seed.

It’s the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance.
It’s the dream afraid of waking
that never takes the chance.
It’s the one who won’t be taken,
who cannot seem to give,
and the soul afraid of dyin’
that never learns to live.
When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been to long,
and you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong,
just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snows
lies the seed that with the sun’s love
in the spring becomes the rose.

Francine Kruger

 
Nerasha Bhagwandin Says:

Ashley Callie, a truly remarkable and beautiful person. A role model for all. You will greatly missed.

 
Paula C Says:

To the Callie Family

What an amazing daughter and sister you had. I can honestly say that the last time I cried as much as I did was when I lost my dad in 1995. Watching Ashley on Isidingo was the highlight of my day. Her beauty from inside and out was incredibly. What a pleasure to see a celeb so down to earth. Reading an article that she would join her staff in the kitchen was touching. I respected her for not allowing fame to get to her. Watching Isidingo will never be the same.
To all her family and friends I am so sorry for your loss. God needed another angel and took you Ashley – RIP you beautiful women.

 
Derryth Says:

To everybody that loved Ashley.
No words will ever be enough to even begin to ease the loss and pain that you are all experiencing. People that are “traumatised” sometimes do illogical things,take Debi’s message to you all from that point and do not allow it to provoke the emotion it does. People have to take responsibility for their actions and hopefully when Debi’s emotion has subsided she will know that from an empathetic,logical point of view her message was in extreme bad taste. Prehaps she will think before she does things in future,maybe she could pass that knowledge on to her friend and they could reflect and acknowledge the difference between the a victim of circumstances and the victim of bad choice for the future. Bad choice can make other people victims to circumstance and sadly that is what you all have to come to terms with. My thoughts are with each one of you as you,have courage,look deep and heal yourselves for Ashley

 
Debi Says:

“Perhaps” people like Derreth should be more open minded and have the ability to try to keep perspective on both sides. My message was not intended to offend anyone, but to be more objective towards the fact that this accident is a tremendous tragedy for all those involved. Tomorrow, you could be the driver of the other car. Just take a minute and give it some thought.

 
Natalie Le Clue Says:

Why dont we just keep to the messages of support to Ashley’s family, friends and fans.

 
Palesa Madumo Says:

To the family of this wonderfully talented woman Ashley Callie: I am certain that she is a beautiful star in heaven shining down on all of us. She was so talented and beautiful and I am shocked at the news of her passing, it has touched me deeply. I am London and my favourite local soap has always and will probably always be Isidingo and she made it magic! I can’t imagine Isidingo with Lee Heins- I am so sorry for your loss- Ashley was just simply gorgeous in every way! May God comfort and bless you.

 
Sheri Says:

Deby, I totally understand your comments and I thank you for them. When my Dad was killed by a drunk driver, I felt utterly devastated, but it still impacted me deeply just how destroyed the driver’s life must’ve been. I went to that driver and extended my hand of forgiveness to him and my prayers for his healing, physically and emotionally. Then I did everything I possibly could to see that he paid his debt to society and my dad by serving the maximum jail sentence. One can forgive and love and still require justice. This is what I hope happens in this case, if indeed a crime was commited that lead to Ashley’s death. Deby, if you know something about this case, you owe it to yourself, to Ashley, and even to the driver of the other car, to go forward and tell investigators. Your friend will not find healing in his spirit or reconcilliation with God until the truth is out in the open. We’re only as sick as our secrets. You can be an agent for healing.

 
Mandla Says:

I haven’t lived in South Africa for a very long time, so I never saw Ashley on TV. I met her though on a trip to South Africa in her restaurant in Melville and was blown away by her presence and grace. From the little contact I had with her as a person, rather than a celebrity, it was clear to me that this was a woman who represented the very best the new South Africa had to offer. I have only recently read about her Isidingo role but it confirms what I suspected – namely that she was someone who was using her talents to change the society and to draw its diverse groups together. It was a great shock to hear of her death and my deepest sympathies go out to her family and to her friends.

I do think that this is a good time to reflect on road safety. Since I don’t live in South Africa anymore, I am perhaps more sensitive to the flagrant disregard for road rules that almost all South Africans show. Here in Germany, people know that if you cause an accident or get caught drinking and driving, you’re likely to face very serious consequences; inevitably jail time if you cause a death. In South Africa, drinking and driving is accepted as a necessity and driving too fast is a national pass time. That has to change.

From seeing photos of crash tests and the photos of the cars involved, it seems clear to me that this accident happened at an average speed of more than 65km/h so it seems to me that someone was driving faster than the speed limit even if alcohol wasn’t involved.

I’m not suggesting that this was the other driver’s fault because we don’t know that but if it does turn out that the rules were broken by the people who survived the accident, no amount of lost religion and remorse should stand in the way of applying the law to its fullest extent. I do have some empathy for the people involved but if you choose to think about your actions after the fact, then society dictates that you do that thinking in a cell.

I think that South Africans need to arrive at the point Germans are, namely that people understand that when they drive their vehicles under the influence or too fast, they stand a very good chance of ruining their lives. Right now, I don’t think the stakes are high enough in South Africa and these tragedies are all too common.

 
Elmarie Says:

Debi, we all have thought of nothing else, I assure you. We all sympathise with the traumatisation of your friends – and we are happy for you and them, that they are alive. Our friend, however, is NOT. And, as you rightly point out, we should not judge, as we were not actually there; then again, neither were you. (I assume?)

This website is an outlet, a relief, a source of comfort – for the many who truely cared for Ashley Callie. It is a place where people express love, friendship, hurt, anger, devastation, outcry – in as much a private environment as the internet could ever allow.

Please feel free to create a seperate blog to express every thought you may have; I am sure that many of us would be willing to engage you in conversation, as far as our emotions would allow.

But please, this site, for us, is sacred. This is about someone we loved. Please respect that.

Thank you
Elmarie

 
Estelle Says:

I agree that this is not a forum for speculation, but a place for us to post out tributes to Ashley, and commiserate with her loved ones.
Love and peace to all who knew Ashley – may you find comfort in sweet memories.

 
Debi Says:

Talk about negativity! Wow! Like I’ve said. I never intended to offend anyone. However, I just feel it’s terribly unfair to judge the driver of the other car by assuming that there was alcohol involved, calling him “an idiot” and also labeling him with all your accusations and hatred.
None of us really know what exactly happened on that very tragic night and at this stage it can’t be determined who exactly was at fault. Additionally, with this I am not placing blame on either Ashley or the driver of the car. Like I’ve said very clearly, I wasn’t there and nor were any of you. For the record I am a great fan of Ashley Callie and haven’t missed any of the Isidingo episodes. South Africa is suffering a great loss and it’s going to be very difficult to continue without her. Ashley Callie will surely live on in our hearts and thoughts.

 
Flea Says:

I agree with Elmarie, if anyone is looking for any sort of debate, this is not exactly an appropriate place to do so, out of basic respect for what this site stands for – the loss a human being.
Understandably, the emotions that we are feeling are ineffable – sometimes we speak out of emotion and not out of logic – things can be obfuscated – and this is what can cause dissention.
I understood this site to be a place to send support towards Ashley Callie and the Callie family; we should try and keep it honorable.
And to Debi, I do sincerely hope that with time, your friend can come to peace with what was in reality – a tragic accident, and that he can find redemption within himself.

 
Elmarie Says:

Let me try and spell it out for you:

Maybe you, Debi, should be the one, to take the minute.

1. I expressed no negativity or hatred whatsoever. Only genuine pain and sorrow for which you clearly have no respect.

2. I have not JUDGED nor ACCUSED nor OFFENDED nor LABELLED your friend, NOR made any assumptions or mention about alcohol – only YOU did.

3. I have made not a single reference to your friend as an idiot, or anything else derogatory.

PLEASE READ WHAT I ACTUALLY WROTE.

ALL I asked you was to have the common decency to respect a site where people who knew and loved her came to show their respect.

Go elsewhere, if you don’t comply.

 
Elmarie Says:

Thanks Flea. (My cat is name
d Flea, and she also says thanks lol)

 
admin Says:

Hi everyone

This site started out as a way to group messages of support for Ashley when she was recovering from her accident. We had so been looking forward to having her read them all after waking up – but this wasn’t to be. Her unexpected death has left us all reeling and the site has now extended to support ourselves (as fans) as well as her friends and family (who do read your messages as often as they can).

Please could we continue to spend our time here sending out as much love as possible, to all those connected to this accident. Making this anything but a pure, loving, wonderful place is not living up to the spirit of what it’s here to do – and the messages we want to leave in permanent tribute to our dear Ashley.

Thank you so much for continuing to spread such love and light in memory of someone so special to us all.

Love to you all
Pat

 
JULIA LAMBERTI Says:

I met Ashley briefly at her restaurant last year and was stunned by her elegance, class and beauty. I am shocked by her passing and my deepest condolences and prayers go out to her family & friends at this difficult time. A true star who will never be forgotten! May she rest in peace.

 
Flea Says:

I was just trying to find some sort of unqualified diplomacy in what seems to be an incipient salvo! It is truly amazing how humans can respond to – and are dictated by – raw emotion.
And with running the risk of turning this site into a networking hotspot (guilt! guilt! guilt!), tell your cat Elmarie, that I know how it feels J

Sincere regret and apologies to admin for defacing a truly consecrated place, I would not by any means want to detract from the spirit on which it is built – I apologize.

And to all family, friends, colleagues and admirers: may you find peace and comfort in this time of sorrow.

 
Flea Says:

I was just trying to find some sort of unqualified diplomacy in what seems to be an incipient salvo! It is truly amazing how humans can respond to – and are dictated by – raw emotion.
And with running the risk of turning this site into a networking hotspot (guilt! guilt! guilt!), tell your cat Elmarie, that I know how it feels :-)

Sincere regret and apologies to admin for defacing a truly consecrated place, I would not by any means want to detract from the spirit on which it is built – I apologize.

And to all family, friends, colleagues and admirers: may you find peace and comfort in this time of sorrow.

 
admin Says:

Flea, thanks for adding some great perspective. One of my best friends is also called Flea (short for Felicia), so there are three Fleas all connected now.

Ultimately, it’s going to take a long time for this enormous loss to sink in. I keep wishing that Ashley could read this, and believing deep inside that somewhere, she actually is.

 
Derrick Says:

Ashley, you will be truly missed. Your beauty that graced us every day will be remembered for all time. I’ve recently read about the passengers of the other car and how one of the girls was also in a coma. They were all severely injured as well. However, not to take the focus off of Ashley, I must extend my deepest sympathies with the families of all the victims.

Many things can happen at an intersection. The sad truth is that we are all upset and, understandably, want to point fingers, but, like Debi said, we don’t know exactly what happened there.

I’d also like to point out that there was no mention of alcohol or any such paraphernalia being used by either drivers, so I think we should just keep this blog a tribute to Ashley’s spirit instead of pointing fingers and jumping to conclusions.

Ashley, all our love forever! Pat, I respect your elgaic herald to Ashley’s wonderful, illustrious life and apologize if I’ve said anything which may have been taken in offense.

 
Debi Says:

Elmarie, actually I wasn’t personally attacking you, but rather a few others further above as well as the many newspapers printing articles without fact-checking first.

I’ve taken your advice and started another blog at http://theothercar.blogspot.com.

You’re right, Pat. This blog isn’t the right place for debate but should remain a tribute to Ashley.

 
Flea Says:

Pat: I thank you for accepting my apology, and for your compliment.

I just feel that we can’t allow ourselves to lose sight of what we’re all “doing here”. We’re all essentially stringing ourselves together out of a common bond, to connect; out of sadness; and out of an inherent human need to support a grieving family, even if all we can offer is consolation in our own virtual world.

As for your hope of Ashley reading this, I believe that when one dies, one immediately becomes omnipresent and omniscient; I do believe she knows more than we think it possible, and is completely aware of what we are all feeling and all that is being done for her. We are never really alone in this life, are we?

And the moniker “Flea” was conferred upon me for more dubious, and less flattering reasons!

Thank you,
Flea

 
Elmarie Says:

Pat, and all: I also apologise if I said some things in anger. This site has been such a magnificent source of information and honest comfort to us all – I would never want it to be anything that could detract from Ashley. If in my passionate defence I crossed that line, I am sincerely sorry.

Debi, I am very glad that you have decided to move the “secondary” debate to a more appropriate place, and I will be sure to meet up with you there.

As for the Fleas – it sounds like a band: “Ashley’s Fleas” :) Oh how she would laugh at that.

Have a good day you all.

Elmarie

 
Elmarie Says:

It seems that there’s a lot of angry people with a lot to say on both sides – fair enough; the news reports this morning certainly have done nothing to help. With the aim of preserving the integrity and objective of this wonderful website, I have created a new discussion forum on FaceBook (Debi, your blog does not seem to work?). Please feel free to come and express any opinion you may have – it is NOT a site of remembrance though, THIS is the place for that; BUT, if you have a thought or opinion about the accident, come THERE, don’t write it here. OK?

It’s: Ashley Callie – What really happened on 8 February. Facebook. Come speak.

 
Debi Says:

Elmarie, I just wanted you (and anyone else who might be interested) to know that the blog is working just fine. The address is the same( http://theothercar.blogspot.com/) but for some reason if you click on the link it takes you somewhere else. You have to copy & paste the link.

 
Yvonne Says:

Hi Elmarie
Do you have to subscribe to Facebook to go to the forum ? Is this Facebook.com or .co.za ?

Thank you

 
Elmarie Says:

Hello Yvonne – you can just register at facebook.com, there’s no subscription fees. Look forward to speaking to you.

Debi, I had clicked on your link repeatedly and received a “Page doesn’t exist” message. I am sure it works now.

 
Matthew Rhys Says:

Well, I have done a search on Facebook and cant find your discussion. Perhaps you could post a link?

 
Merisha Says:

My deepest sympathies and regrets for the passing of a great actress, the best in the world.

 
Francine Kruger Says:

To Lauren, the Callie Family and friends,
I would like to send my deepest sympathies to you all. I was an avid Isidingo fan and loved Ashley very much. She was the most amazing person that i knew. She shined like a true star in everything she did. I was at school with her and went on an Art and Drama tour with her . I still have some pictures of her from that tour, if you would like me to send you copies, Please e-mail me privately. I am very sorry for your loss. May Ashleys soul rest in peace and shine down upon everyone who loved her

Lots and Lots of Love
Francine

 
Francine Kruger Says:

To Lauren and the Callie Family,

This poem sums up how I feel

Chanson d’Automne

Les sanglots longs
Des violons
De l’automne
Bercent mon coeur
D’une langueur
Monotone.

Tout suffocant
Et blême, quand
Sonne l’heure,
Je me souviens
Des jours anciens
Et je pleure ;

Et je m’en vais
Au vent mauvais
Qui m’emporte
Deçà, delà
Pareil à la
Feuille morte.

Let Ashley’s star shine down on us every night and let her reign in our hearts always

Francine

________________________________________

 
Barbara Harmel Says:

Let all of us who mourn the tragic loss of Ashley Callie commit ourselves to actively honouring her memory. Let us all make a daily and ongoing committment to changing the character of driving in our country. Learning and obeying the rules of the road, safe and respectful driving is vital. In this way the hideous price Ashley paid will not be in vain. Barbara

 
Estelle Says:

To Ashley’s family, loved ones, friends, colleagues from the TV industry and from the restaurant industry: I will be thinking of you all tomorrow. I’m sure it will be a hard day, and I pray that you will find strength in fond memories of Ashley’s life. Remember her gorgeous smile, and her “chuffed”, look when she smiled.
I will continue to pray for you as you move into the next phase of grieving.
A huge virtual hug to you all!

 
Aquinas Rowing Community Says:

The Aquinas Rowing community extend their deepest condolences to John and his family on the sad passing of Ashley. She will be sadly missed and was someone who touched many lives.
Rest in Peace.

 
Hlengiwe Mthembu, Durban Says:

I wud lyk 2 send my condolences 2 da callie family. At home my whole family enjoyed watchng isidingo especially ashley. I remember dis 1 tym my sister who’s a call centre agent came home dis one tym all excited becoz she had spoken 2 ashley abt an account, she said she was so kind n eva since then she’s been her greatest fan. We’ll miss u Ashley

 
Nobahle Mali Says:

My condolences to Callie’s family and friends.
Ashley, I still couldn’t believe you left us at your young age. I loved you a lot and Isisdingo will never be the same without you.
May your soul rest in peace.

Nobahle Mali from Cape Town

 
Nobahle Mali Cape Town Says:

My condolences to Callie’s family and friends.
Ashley, I still couldn’t believe you left us at your young age. I loved you a lot and Isisdingo will never be the same without you.
May your soul rest in peace.

 
Hapla Says:

i have never met Ashley Callie but i know Lee Heins very well as i spent most of my evenings with her in my living room, i loved her and identified with her as a successfull young woman. its a great loss for South Afirca and Ashley’s family. We will sadly miss you in our living rooms but you will never be forgotten gal.

 
susan Says:

rest in peace

 
Deonette Nieuwoudt Says:

Ashley you have been and will always be an Angel a role model and a inspiration to us all, you will live on in our hearts, you will never be forgotten.

Rest in Peace.

Deonette Nieuwoudt

 
Dean and Michelle Says:

Ash

Words cannot express our saddness at the news of your loss.To the Callie Family your daughter was a beautiful person who was taken too soon.Our condolences and our thoughts and prayers are with you.Remember her for the genuine treasure she was.Another Angel was needed.
Dayon,Serena Skye and Connor stay strong and be brave that is what Ash would have wanted.
Ash Rest in Peace.
Dean,Michelle,Tyron and Jordan

 
natasha Says:

For Ashleys’s Family & Friends

Somewhere in our dreams tonight
We’ll see you standing there
You’ll look at us with a smile
“Life isn’t always fair”

You say you were chosen for his garden
His preciously hand picked bouquet
“God really needed me,
That’s why I couldn’t stay”

It’s said to be that angels
Are sent from above
I’ve always had my angel
Our Friend – whose heart was filled with love

Wherever the ocean meets the sky
There will be memories of you
When I look up at that sky so blue
All we’ll see are visions of you

“While there’s a heart in us, you’ll be a part of us.”
“Forever Young, Forever Young”
“There is a new Angel tonight”

Trust in God and he will help you through this difficult time that you are going through. He will always be there for you when you need him, in good or bad times. He will help you cope. Words can’t begin to describe how we feel about what has happend. But she will be greatly missed. She was and will always be a STAR. Our STAR!!!!!!!!
Our deepest sympathy to each and everyone of the family and friends.

Regards
Natasha & Andrew Sinclair

 
Kim Steenhuis Says:

Ash u were a unique & 1 of a kind person who inspired me in good & bad times by the way u approached life. To the Callie family my sincere condolences. She will always be my inspiration & i thank u that we as fans could pay our last respects at her memorial service

 
SALIM BUCKUS Says:

you rock girl!!!!

 
s.miss her Says:

hey ..i always knew each country had a princess, but i never knew whos s.a was!
yup i know……….dumb of me…….ashley is ours.

miss you lots……..i still keep on thinking you will return. dont know how this happened yet.

 
s.miss her Says:

julia lamberti
hey ..i want to say it must have been cool to meet ash!
as usual she must hav looked stunning….hey?
i always wanted to meet her……..never got to.
it just shows us to try and make all our dreams come true…..for life is short!

 
s.miss her Says:

hey everyone………..ashley looked stunning now on isidingo.
i loved the way she said daddy.

miss you ashley

 
Natalie Le Clue Says:

………………………………………………………………………………………………thinking about Ash………………………………

 
Paul Says:

couldn’t agree more …………………………..
I’m missing her so, soooooooooo much!!! I can’t believe it’s been 3 weeks since she’s been taken from us ………………………………………. :-(
Natalie, I’ve added you on Facebook. Hope 2 chat soon.

Hey S. Miss how ya doing, friend? Hope ur okay. We’ll get through this together, as her fans, k?

Lauren, John, Deyon, & Mr & MRs Callie, I’m thinking of you guys, today, always …………………….

 
mojwadi Says:

i was in a spar super market when i saw the headlines on a newspaper, ‘car crash claims isidingo star.’It devastated me,i was so so shocked i even failed to do my shopping. Lee was a character in a isidingo that i very much identified with,so to say i liked her will be an understatement;i loved her very much.Even to date i still cant bring myself to think of her as someone who is out of this fuss called reality.
Good bye beautiful lady,everytime i watch isidingo and i see you i feel as im being given a chance to see you for the one last time, and it gives me comfort.
May your soul rest in peace and the angles of the lord watch over you in your resting place.

 
snowlily Says:

Hello Kerry, Tarry, Kim, Kathleen, and the rest of the Ash Gang, I have put a new post on my blog
http://wwwinmemoryofashleycallie.blogspot.com
Please will you all go and read it . It isvery important that you do. I hope that you are all doing ok, i am coping and i am coming to terms with Ashleys death. Tarry, please carry on with your beautifull poems, they are amazing. Love you all and be strong
Love and Light
Franni

 
Kerry Gray Says:

Hey Franni,

Lovily to see you are back on the Site.

I will go and look at your post right now.

I am also coping and I have let Ash go as i have send before but Not a day goes by where i don’t think of her and miss her like crazy.

You must be strong aswell
lots of love always
Your Friend
Kerry
xxxx

 
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